Recognizing Abuse Masterlist
Signs that you’re living in abuse:
- Behavioral patterns of living in abuse
- Was I abused? Checklist
- Not knowing you are a victim
- Signs your family is abusive
- Making excuses for your abusive parents
- Experience of living in secrecy
- What they taught you was abuse
- Emotional experiences of living in abuse
- Shame and guilt: how abused children feel
- What makes parents abusers (actions)
- Have I been manipulated into believing abuse was my fault? Checklist
- Am I being held hostage by abusers? Checklist
- You are not allowed to mention the past
- Why you still love abusive parents
- Parental behaviour that isn’t normal
- Shit parents aren’t supposed to say to you
- Experience of “not belonging anywhere”
- Red flags for abusive parents
- Healthy vs Abusive Chores
- Was my childhood abusive or just had some bad parts?
- Rules always change (unpredictable environment is abusive)
Breakdown of abusive parent’s behaviour:
- “This is my house” rule
- Start living in the real life!
- Why all the children aren’t abused equally in an abusive home
- Common abuser hypocrisies
- Do your parents want you to be happy or look happy?
- Why do they try to convince you that you’re worthless
- Why do they pretend you’re a burden? Controlling behaviour
- Why your abusers are not good people
- Abusive parents are keeping you in false hope they’ll change
- Are your parents preventing you from succeeding?
- Abusive parents pretending “it wasn’t that bad”
- Double Bind (why every choice you make ends wrong)
- Incorporating trauma in raising children
- Abusers will not allow you to call them out on abuse
Signs your parents are narcissistic:
- Stuff narcissistic parents/caretakers say
- Shit narcissistis parents say
- Tactics of narcissistic abuse
- Recognizing emotional immaturity of narcissistic parents
- Examples of narcissistic behaviours
- Being punished for growing up by narcissistic parents
- What children of narcissists go thru
Signs you’ve been thru sexual abuse:
- CSA (Childhood Sexual Abuse) Symptoms
- Signs you might have endured CSA
- Was I sexually abused by adults as a child? Checklist
Signs of abusive friendship/relationship:
- How to tell if a friend is not a friend
- Am I in an abusive relationship/friendship? Checklist
- Manufacturing insecurities
- Red flags for abusers
- Have I been thru social abuse? Checklist
- You can recognize abusers by how they make you feel
- How abusive childhood teaches you to stay in abusive relationships
- Recognizing abusive friendship
Signs you’re struggling with trauma
- Trauma processing information
- Experiences of traumatized children
- Signs you’re recovering from long term abuse
- Things abuse survivors think/say
- Thoughts of victims of child abuse
- Your brain on trauma
- How long term childhood abuse develops into complex trauma (comic)
- How trauma processes your memories
- Ups and downs of trauma
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Iguaçu Falls lies on the border of Brazil and Argentina, where the Guaçu River pours off a basalt plateau in 275 separate cascades.
letβs just stay at home. susan ryder / anna valdez / karoliina hellberg / lachlan goudie
My friend wakes up at noon.
Goes to bed at eight. Wants less time
because she wants less pain.I understand. I’ve been there too.
I can spot a scar beneath a wristwatch
from a hundred yards away.And no, it is not the weak who try
to clock out early. It’s people
who are desperate to go home.— Andrea Gibson, from “Time Piece,” You Better Be Lightning
